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Are you (and perhaps your partner) struggling and wondering how things can get better?<\/strong><\/h4>\n

Are you feeling frustrated that your partner refuses to get help to repair your relationship?\u00a0 Or simply shuts down when you try to discuss your issues?\u00a0 <\/i><\/p>\n

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Does your partner appear to be putting little, if any, effort into improving your relationship?\u00a0 Are you losing hope that things will only continue to get worse and not better?<\/i><\/p>\n

Wondering if there\u2019s anything you can do to improve your relationship on your own? \u00a0<\/i><\/p>\n

Too many couples in troubled relationships wait far too long to get professional help. \u00a0By the time both agree to counseling, the relationship may have been pushed to its breaking point.\u00a0 Studies have found, however, that working on relationships alone (if the other refuses to participate) can have equally positive results.\u00a0 For example, at the University of Denver, results from a five-year longitudinal study of 300 long-term couples suggest that a month or so after receiving relationship-skills training, those who got it as individuals saw as much improvement in their relationships as those who got the training as a couple.\u00a0 So, if your partner won\u2019t join you in counseling, going it alone can be just as effective.<\/p>\n

Yes, it is easy to lose motivation when you feel like you\u2019re the only one putting in the effort to fix things.\u00a0 However, many in this situation find that when they actively work on their role and skills in their relationship, the quality of the relationship does improve and often times significantly.<\/p>\n

A question frequently asked is, “What if my partner is responsible for our relationship issues?”<\/strong><\/h4>\n

While it may appear as if one partner is solely \u201cresponsible\u201d for the relationship troubles, this is almost never the case; both partners, to some degree, contribute to their relationship challenges. \u00a0Yet, when one partner\u2019s relationship skills grow and develop, the relationship as a whole is likely improved as well.<\/p>\n

How does this work?<\/strong><\/h4>\n

For starters, together we will work on:<\/p>\n